I read an article recently about the dark side of being an empath. The article addressed how difficult it is to be an empath and how it is impossible to fully fall in love or give their heart to someone. It discussed how trusted they are because they are able to sense what people are feeling and act accordingly. It also described the walls empaths build to shield themselves from feeling the pain and emotion of the world. While everything that the article says can be true there is another angle that should be addressed.
To begin with, it is necessary to understand what an empath actually is. An empath is a person who has the ability to fully feel what others are feeling. The empath then has a choice, do they take the emotion of someone else and make it their own or do they build walls to distinguish between their emotions and others’ emotions. There was a time when I was in the occult, that I would have agreed that being an empath is a curse that takes much to endure. After finding Jesus Christ again and walking down the Christian path, I find that my views on the subject have completely changed. I used to believe that walls were necessary to hide from the feelings of everyone else. I closed myself off to everyone and everything to avoid using the gift and a constant feeling of being overwhelmed. I was almost a hermit. Friends and dating were things I didn’t put much stock in. Being away from God had me in a pretty isolated life. In the view of Christianity, this God-given ability provides a way to minister to and love others where they are.
The relationship I now have with Christ removes the stress and burden of being an empath. This is only because I take the time daily to surrender my burdens and worries (stresses) to God (1 Peter 5:7, Psalm 55:22). In developing my relationship with Christ, I have learned that open, personal relationships are definitely possible. I disagree that empaths can’t fully love. The only thing that would keep them from fully being open is fear. Fear is not of God. Having a life with Christ eliminates the fear and helps me be able to see the benefits of being open with others. I am now able to be more comfortable going out in public and talking with others. I am also able to have more meaningful relationships with others, that I never would have thought possible.
All in all, being an empath can be dark and isolated or light and loving. It all really amounts to what you are willing to do with it. Are you willing to listen to God, have a relationship with Him and move in your gifts so that you can help others, or do you choose to stay in the dark and try to deal with your gift all on your own where it can become a curse rather than a blessing? The choice is yours.
By Monica Alday